I copied more from the article, in case some didn't click on the link to read. It was very enlightening to me, and I want it to be on my blog site.
Most of us assume many things about abusers, but many of us can't even begin to comprehend what goes on in their minds. What I continue to say about my father is that he orchestrated and manipulated everything. They do not leave anything to chance.
Reading this article written by Andrew Vachss actually affirms this.
"In America, we respect titles more than knowledge. But despite intellectualized attempts to merge the “psychopath” and the “sociopath,” there are significant differences between them. They share some characteristics—a total absence of empathy, a profound sense of entitlement, and a complete lack of conscience. The last explains why they never bounce the needles on a polygraph, a machine which does not detect lies, but only measures “guilty knowledge.” Neither ever feels guilt for their conduct, because they do not experience—or even conceptualize—guilt.
Also, neither sociopaths nor psychopaths will seek “treatment” unless compelled to do so by a court, and even then they will simply use the opportunity to improve their skill-set, such as faking empathy for their victims while facing a parole board.
But there are distinctions between the two. A psychopath is generally incapable of (or dismissive of) cost-benefit analysis, unlike a sociopath, who will engage in such calculation. So for example, a sociopath who is an intrafamilial child sexual offender is likely to continue his behavior with subsequent children of his own, or even to seek out “single moms” who advertise their status in various forms of social media … but he is not likely to abduct children of strangers. Both offenders are predatory pedophiles, but their target range will vary radically.
A psychopath is capable of bonding only to the extent of creating a folie à deuxrelationship, which psychiatry calls a “shared psychosis,” (but would be more correctly termed a toxic gestalt, as there is always a far more dominant “half” in such a relationship). Examples include Bradley and Hindley, Leopold and Loeb, Bianchi and Buono. One psychopath might quote Nietzsche eloquently; another might not even be able to read his tripe. But a serial-killing psychopath always writes his own script, seeking a level of internal stimulation available to them only through the pain of others.
The utter helplessness of their victims is always a trail-marker of psychopaths. Some, such as Gertrude Baniszewski, take advantage of opportunities; others, such as Ted Bundy, create them. Unlike sociopaths, psychopaths have no “goal” which, if attained, would cause their behavior to cease. Their need never goes away, although the fulfillment of that need is often dose-related … what once “satisfied” them eventually will no longer suffice. And escalation is virtually guaranteed.
Psychopaths are characterized by implacable relentlessness. They can neither be deterred by any law (including the death penalty), nor benefit from any “treatment.” They have all the insight into their own behavior they need, because they know what they want to do. Fear of consequences is non-existent with them—the very possibility of consequences doesn’t register.
Psychopaths are the ultimate toxin in the bloodstream of humanity, but they are not “born bad.” Fetal alcoholism, pre-frontal lobe malformation, closed-head injuries, the XXY chromosome … all have been found in psychopaths. And all have been found in those who never walk the psychopath’s chosen road.
The essential difference between a sociopath and a psychopath is that a sociopath’s goals—money, success, attention—are shared by most of us, to some extent. But because they are not dragged down by all our ethical “baggage,” sociopaths can move more quickly toward such goals, and they would have no reservations about removing anything that stood between them and what they want.In contrast, a psychopath seeks gratification—rape, torture, murder-for-entertainment—that most of us don’t. We have great difficulty imagining why any human being would want to commit the acts psychopaths engage in.
It gets murky when we run across sociopaths who produce child pornography but who are not what are generically called “pedophiles.” They are simply selling a product, and completely indifferent as to how that product is produced, or to what use it is put. No different from arms dealers or contraband traffickers (from cocaine to children), the gratification is the money and the power that comes with accumulating it.
Put more bluntly: a sociopath would sell a snuff film; a psychopath would makeone.
But when it comes to predatory pedophiles, knowing the difference makes no difference, because there is no cure. So the sooner we stop being lulled into a false sense of security by the mythology that peddles “treatment,” the safer our children will be.
What we call something doesn’t matter. There is one undeniable truth about predators: if we refuse to see them while we still have a chance, we’ll never see them coming later—when we don’t.
Andrew Vachss
Some how we continue to be lulled into this weird 'safe zone' by forced treatment and/or making them be on a sexual register etc. When there is no treatment for a cure. We never hear that it will only be cured upon death.
We the people have to hear this and own it.
There is no cure!!! Their lives will always and forever be open opportunities to molest again and again. They will continue to do whatever and say whatever to lull you into believing it will never happen again.
They do not work alone.
Also, predatory pedophiles….how they will ensure to get victims even by dating or marrying someone with children. My father won the lottery when he married a woman who believed in zero birth control. He was constantly fed new models by the sheer numbers 14 children will produce. He died having 49 grandchildren and I am not sure how many great-grands. There was no need to go out and snatch a child, they were willingly brought to him.
My father controlled our family making sure his pedophilia needs were met. He had his wife guilt his adult children to bring their girls to him. My mother was his second in command. I did feel guilty if I didn't go to Sunday Dinner. It worked on me. I did bring my children to him. "Grandpa enjoys it when his kids come home."
I wish I could say that my family was the last living family where this stuff goes on. But, inside of each pedophile family is a similar scene being played out…he is manipulating the non-abusers…and for multiple reasons, they are going along.
It also struck me yesterday about the lack of conscience in pedophiles and how we have a church who preaches to the conscience within us….
If you all are expecting the pedophiles within the church to have a come to Jesus moment, forget about it. You have to have a conscience first.
Fathers without a conscience are not fathers.
If all you take away from this article is this….the lack of conscience and what that fully entails…you will begin to see the trail that you followed perfectly….you have been played by a pedophile like a flute.
Imagine, we have a 'lie detector' and it only works if you have a conscience…..and we use this to 'detect' a pedophile who will ace this test everytime.
Lie Detectors don't work if you don't have a conscience. I know that recently a few folks have taken lie detector tests to 'clear' them of the title pedophile….Really?
Who is more the fool?
We are…for putting full trust in the machine.
What is reality showing you? How many have stories and tales about the behavior of these men have been told? I for one, have been confused by the passing of the lie detector and it then made the victims appear to be liars. Instead, the machine was unable to detect a conscience.
How perfect. A pedophile without a conscience….makes perfect sense to me.
We need to stop putting a conscience and feelings and love etc into a person who is showing you it is not there.
Pedophiles are using the very tools we have full faith in. What I am here to tell you, forgiveness of their sins (sexual abuse) doesn't work. They don't disappear into a lake called Grace….and the lie detectors don't work on them. It is time for all of us to rely on reality.
Reality is waiting for us to act upon it. Not to look away and believe away and test it away. It is waiting for us to move. The pedophiles lives are going on uninterrupted, due to our lack of movement.
Movement in the direction of fully embracing, "There is no cure." and "It can't be blessed away."
You have to be willing to lose it all in order to save your self and your children.
As long as you stay, you are feeding the pedophile….he will not stop sexually abusing until he dies. Get that. Hold it and never let it go. You are in a battle you can't win by staying.
I M Perfect lady 