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• Our Own Worst Enemy

  I heard Self Confidence described in a way I hadn't thought of it before…I believe we have an overall meaning, but not how it is derived.  What I didn't know is that our sense of self confidence comes from our inner dialogue and promises…the ones we don't keep, are actually lies to our selves.  The more we lie, the less confidence we have in our self.

  Bob Greene and Oprah were talking about starting to make healthy changes in your lifestyle, and how we tell our selves, "Monday, I will start working out…" or "Next month, I will stop eating sweets".  The damage comes when we tell ourselves these lies, for Monday rolls around and we don't do as we said.

  It is in the follow through, or the lack thereof, that our confidence in our self begins to diminish.  The more we say we are going to start and the more often we don't, we see our selves as a liar…and just as friends who fail to follow through, we  lose our ability to trust our self.

  I hadn't considered all the times I toyed with the idea of 'starting' something and didn't that I was setting a precedence inside of me to lie.  Not only lie, but then not get upset about it.  

  It is like I was okay with lying and then even more okay at being lied to…by me.  I would never do to others what I have done over and over to myself.

  And more importantly, no one that I have respect for has ever lied to me as much as I have lied to myself.

  Somehow I discount the lies I tell myself and even have become numb or deaf to the words uttered, the promises, or plans spoken, either out loud or in my head. 

  What I know is that I would never talk that way to others, nor would I tolerate this behavior from others…yet when it is between me and me, there are no boundaries.

  Even doing the Yoga Challenge, it was helpful to have told other people, so that my word wasn't just between me and me.   Like I intuitively knew, that words to just myself were not enough.  

  Now I am debating how to create a healthy food plan, and have been off of sweets now for three days.  Yet, I haven't declared this out loud or even to myself.  There is a fear there in stating something I may not be able to suceed in.  Perhaps there is a part of me that is tired of lying inside of me.

  Just as I want to do a yoga challenge, but feel that I am not ready to commit for 60 days, and yet without a challenge, I do very little yoga.

  I am at a place of not wanting false promises, but not able to commit…perhaps in this space I can't fail, for I don't even try…but I don't lie.

  I just found this so interesting…I want to nurture a friendship with myself that is free of lies and false promises, one that I can respect and honor.

  I just didn't know my friendship with myself wasn't one that I would allow from others.  And this one lives inside and directs my life…stops starting to begin a new change that will have so many rewards.  

  Even in that alone is interesting.  How I stop myself from changing out of bad habits.  We certainly are our own worst enemy.

   

   

   

  March 20, 2012

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• Orphaned with parents.

  The view I have on my childhood home, is that my father sits and does nothing and my mother runs around busy busy.

  And yet how much further from the truth that actually was.

  My father sat, after he abused.
  My mother did nothing about the abuse.

  Their opposing actions are what twist the mind of a child.
  We look for signs, and see the opposite of our experiences, we think we are nuts, we have a problem in our head.

  There he sits and does nothing, there she goes busy again.

  As we speak, she is in another land, rocking orphaned babies. It is ironic or not that she is rocking her own children…for we were left on our own in our own home.

  Orphaned but not homeless. Orphaned with parents.

  (I am not for sure for sure, IF she is gone to the orphanage as planned, this is an assumption of mine.) I may hear of my false info, so wanted to be upfront, the plans may have changed, it could already have happened, her where abouts is unknown to me.)

  March 11, 2011

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• Start Running!

  I began a discussion yesterday about the benefits of yoga, of how amazed I was that I could literally see the affects, like muscle growth by doing 90 minutes each day.

   

  Immediately one lady said, “I do not have 90 minutes to spare,” to which another replied, “That is nonsense, you make the time.”

   

  We make the time; we add and remove things in our lives to make room for something we find important.

   

  "I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be."
   ~ Einstein

   

  As my yoga session was winding down, a thought came to me that I am already feeling the ‘World chasing me.”  The benefits of doing yoga, has health already chasing me!

   

  Bikram says that if you can do Cobra, Locust, Full Locust, Bow, that you don’t have to chase the world, the world will chase you. You don’t have to chase, love, love will chase you…. 

   

  I felt the tides changing direction, I felt I was no longer the one reaching, seeking, but instead the waves of life are chasing me! 

   

  I caught a glimpse of the affects coming towards me, my efforts being echoed and returning to me, in waves of gratitude and excitement I see muscles, feel muscles and strength! 

   

  My efforts work, my taking 90 minutes each day gives me back my health. 

   

  I am not certain I am expressing this correctly. But before I was sitting in a spot ‘hoping’ my health would improve or at least not worsen.  Now I am leading my health, I am out front doing pose after pose, day after day, building and adding layer upon layer of health.

   

  And guess what, health is growing and it is coming right behind me.  I feel it lining up behind me; I love that feeling of how selflessly It follows behind me.  Like I am the master and it is the servant. 

   

  For 51 years I waited for health to come to me, never knowing that it was waiting for me to begin.

   

  Failure to start will stop health from chasing you, you begin the race, you have to start running!

   
  

  February 18, 2010

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