I M Perfect; and it is impossible not to be.

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  • Believed, the podcast

    On the route today, I listened to the podcast "Believed" on NPR Radio.   You can listen here https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510326/believed My take away is that it is so powerful for victims of sexual abuse to be BELIEVED. It is hard to… Continue reading

  • Calendar for 2020

    I submitted my artwork "My Lady and I" to the Peter White Library for a Gallery Showing. I WAS ACCEPTED!   Seriously excited!! It says, "On behalf of Peter White Public Library Arts Committee, Congratulations! Your artwork has been scheduled… Continue reading

  • Allowed in our lives.

    There is a wall of inertia surrounding an abused child. Many immobile adults who are standing between the child and their freedom, and yet we as a society are wanting the child to speak up. To tell.  And, to keep… Continue reading

  • Living is About

    I misspoke in my last blog, about Mothers who suffer to do right by their children. I do not believe this is true. It isn't suffering as we think of suffering. It feels so different. It feels constructive and empowering… Continue reading

  • With You Always

    I sit between two mothers – my mother and my daughter. The past meets the present, and flows into the future. I have lived long enough to see the legacy living itself out. I know what I needed and I… Continue reading

  • Your True Self

    My husband has been married to two women in our 32 year marriage, both lived in the same body, and their lives are so different. How do you explain the two of me? From brainwashed, to open mind. The contrasts… Continue reading

  • The Sum of My Parts

    This week I read Olga Trujillo's book "The Sum of My Parts" and it helped me understand how a child survives abuse. It also showed me our survival techniques and how they become a hinderance when we are adults.  How… Continue reading

  • My Guides

    What many of us fail to appreciate, is where do we fall into the patterns of creating false scenarios when we get stressed out? Why is it that some of us are good make believers? When in our lives was… Continue reading

  • When You Are Uncertain.

    I have been trying to write out the contents of anxiety, and how the thoughts were the opposite of reality, like it was trying to predict the unpredictable, but with a very heavy overtone of negativity that would leave me… Continue reading

  • Be my guest

    On the eve of Easter, my anxiety rose and my irrational thoughts swept in and out of my world. The idea of a holiday and all its trappings seemed too much. I wanted to cancel and be alone. My mind… Continue reading