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  • I Can Day 13

    As I lay in bed, tired from my late night, I was pondering putting off yoga until later on, then the puppy barked.

     

    Standing outside in the fresh air, now wide-awake, I decided yoga it will be, and it was almost 5am.

     

    My body didn’t seem that affected by the late night and only 6 hours of sleep, surprisingly we did all right.

     

    We keep getting affirmations how the mind tells us false predictions, “you are too tired to do yoga,” and without trying, I may have believed it.

     

    By challenging the voice and at least attempting to begin, you can make a new belief.

     

    My new belief is that I can stay up late and get up early and do yoga.  I did it.

     

    It is wonderful to know the truth.

     

    Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor helped me understand the mind, and how the right and left side each hold a role.

     

    The left side had a file marked, “too tired in the morning after a late night, I can’t.”  Which I am sure was created at a weak moment, where I needed an excuse to get out of doing something.

     

    Now that file is replaced with, ‘I can do yoga with only 6 hours of sleep.”

     

    How fun this is to switch the files from “I can’t to I can”!

     

    “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.”     Einstein  

     

    What they didn’t tell us is that thinking the same thing over and over will stop you from getting a different result.

     

    I am thinking that thinking is what stops most from doing anything.

     

    How strong the words, “I can’t” are.  Imagine how they have the power to hold you in helpless, hopeless and keep you getting weaker and weaker.

     

    Now imagine the power in the words “I CAN”!

     

    “Think you can, think you can’t; either way, you’ll be right.”   Henry Ford

  • Imperfect Yoga Lady.

    A dozen days of yoga, a dozen mornings where I resolutely walked downstairs and began yoga, twelve times that my body and awareness won.

     

    I am surprised that there are times when a voice or feeling wants to ‘not do the yoga’, but that it is outvoted each day.

     

    And the contest hasn’t been close.  The side that seems to have the most strength is the part of me that feels yoga is what I want to do.

     

    This surprises me, usually I feel the slippery slope that I am on, where all it will take is a day where the voice is really strong and I will fall into a lazy excuse.

     

    I remember that when I made up my mind that my father and his actions would not define me. The mindset was in cement.

     

    It seems that this is the case again.  That even if the voice comes in, I already have a set plan.  So it can complain, but it rains along side me as I am doing the yoga.

     

    In fact it surprised me that the body and I continue going ahead with yoga, one posture at time, allowing the voice to chatter on.

     

    It is like watching your self do what you don’t want to do.

     

    As I walked out of many dysfunctional relationships the same thing happened.  I would physically walk away while my mind protested loudly.

     

    Today, this is exactly how my yoga felt.

     

    That I was physically doing postures in the moment of today, that my past persona wasn’t happy about, yet I did them anyway.

     

    I know that this is a great sign, a great indication that the core of me, is with me doing yoga.

     

    There may be days where it will be difficult to begin, or days where it just seems that all balance is off, or that everything appears awkward and hard, but I have faith I will at least try.

     

    I remember feeling so inept so out of sorts, so bad at being normal, and I feel the same with yoga.  I am not a graceful balanced strong yogi.

     

    I am okay, being at the beginning again, being awkward and looking imperfect, for I am.

     

    I am an imperfect yoga lady.

     

  • I love my Lady. Day 11

    Well, this morning as my eyes opened, anxiety flew in, and a dream I had just completed left me unsteady.  I was dreaming, my childhood friend (who also was abused by my father), her and I were discussing whether to leave early or stay.

     

    I wanted to go and she wanted to stay.  I felt anxious to be going trying to convince her and distressed about staying.

     

    I didn’t like the fact that this particular dream ‘happened’ to be in my subconscious after yesterday’s yoga.

     

    Letting the dream go, I breathed deeply, gathered up my yoga clothes and strength, with my inner determination I walked towards my fear and my basement.

     

    Insides shaky, I began, not knowing what was heading my way.

     

    In the standing postures, the same sensation of air going into my left brain was there in most of the standing postures, which was odd, for it used to be in just a few. 

     

    I had told myself to just go with the sensation to not fight it.  So I guess it felt free to arise and often.

     

    I wasn’t going to stop doing yoga, so the only thing left was to continue on, no matter come what may.

     

    Yet each posture was strong, my body and I stayed together, and the breath kept us in balance and controlled, the sensation was secondary off to the side.

     

    As I dropped my leg on the last standing posture I said, “Thank you body, we did it!”

     

    And tears began to flow, again.

     

    But this time, they were in triumph, and they didn’t last long, for my body and I then went into the floor poses.

     

    It came to me that the standing poses may be for mental fortitude, while the floor ones are for emotional wellness, and doing both will strengthen the body to have the power to deal with whatever comes our way.

     

    I feel deeply joined with my body. 

     

    I have over the past few years found a nice connection, but this one just cemented a deeper trust, that I am not alone, and no matter where I am asked to go, my body will come with me, always being able to express what needs to be expressed and strong enough to endure.

     

    My body is a wise lady and I trust that she and I will be okay, as long as we stay in the now, feel what is, and breathe.

     

    I love my Lady.

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  • It Will Respond In Kind.

    Below is an interesting view of your awareness and your body, perhaps this will help us as we continue towards 50 more days of yoga.  Our bodies are our partners, 100%!

     

    (from Reinventing The Body, Resurrecting The Soul)

     

    "Relating to your body calls for the same basic attitudes that go into any intimate relationship.  Tending to them every day keeps the relationship healthy.

     

    Trust

    Consideration

    Honesty

    Mutual cooperation

    Loving appreciation

     

    These are all aspects of awareness. People focus too much on the physical choices that the body presents – whether to take vitamins, how many calories to ingest, how much to exercise. Without awareness these considerations tend to be fairly useless.  Your body knows if you fear it; it rebels at being disciplined like a disobedient child; being ignored makes it grow dull and inert.  The whole purpose of consciously relating to your body is to provide the kind of foundation that is really needed.  After that, you can take any physical measures in the right spirit, and that will bring the best results.

     

    Trust.  Real trust is implicit.  It doesn’t depend on shifting moods.  It doesn’t need to be tested or proven.  Most people only trust their bodies so far. They anticipate a time when the body will bring pain and the distress of aging.  If you are on the lookout for what can go wrong physically, you are relating out of distrust, the opposite of what needs to exist.  So reframe the situation.  Think of the millions of processes that are being carried out perfectly in billions of cells every second.  Compared to that steady, faithful, perfectly coordinated functioning, the few times that the body shows distress are minuscule.  It’s far more realistic to trust your body than mistrust it.  After all, you trust you mind even though it occasionally breaks out in irrational reactions and is susceptible to moods of depression and anxiety.  Your body stands by you without asking for any reward, and its steadiness far exceeds the shifting winds of the mind.

     

    Consideration.  Your body doesn’t demand consideration, but it will reward you amply if you show some.  It’s considerate to walk away from stressful situations.  Stress puts enormous pressure on the body’s coping mechanisms, and that includes the stress of loud noise, congested work environments, excessive physical demands and emotional upset.  You may consider it recreation to run a marathon, for example, but you should consider your body’s viewpoint.  Another basic consideration is rest and regular daily rhythms.  Instead of waiting until you are too tired to go on, provide rest several times a day to your body – all it takes is a few minutes sitting quietly with your eyes closed.  A predictable routine for meals and exercise also shows consideration.  If you are used to irregular habits, it may bore you to adapt new habits, but if you persist for only a week, you will notice a positive response from your body.  It will be more relaxed and at the same time more responsive and energetic.  Even the most minimal effort at exercise, such as getting up from your desk and stretching every couple of hours, injects a bit of personal attention to the body.  Keep in mind that your attention is a basic nutrient that your body needs.

     

    Honesty. In personal relationships, it’s a strain to keep up a false front, and the same is true for relating to your body.  In both cases the falseness usually comes down to self-image.  You look at your body and want it to match your ego’s desire to look good in the eyes of others.  People spend thousands of hours in the gym, not for the sake of the body, but to satisfy an ego-ideal of beauty, vanity, strength, and security, and to fit in with someone else’s expectations. Body image is a huge problem for many people, and classically woman are the most distressed about it.  You can reframe the whole problem by comparing our body to the person you love the most in the world.  Do you really care what that person looks like in the mirror?  Do you denigrate that person for not fitting the image of a supermodel, not being at their ideal weight, not having biceps or big enough breasts?  Does growing older make that person less valuable in your eyes?

       The reason those considerations don’t matter is that you are relating to a person, not to an object that must match an ideal image.  Now think of your body as a person who is just as intimately related to you.  You don’t even have to call this person “me”.  By any name your body has been relating to you as the most faithful of friends, and once you regard it that way, ego image becomes irrelevant.  In short, learn to personify your body, and they you won’t be so tempted to objectify it.

     

    Mutual cooperation.  You can’t expect your body to serve you if you give it nothing to work with.  The body of a middle-aged executive isn’t out to sabotage him when the man decides to shovel a foot of snow from the driveway. But if he has ignored his heart for years, there is a danger in sudden hard exertion, perhaps fatal danger.  The key to the body’s reliability lies in cooperation: only ask for as much as you have given.  Compared with other intimate relationships, your body asks for a fraction of what it is willing to give in return.  This is another area where it helps to personify your body instead of objectifying it. Think of your body as a willing worker who wants only a meager salary, but who cannot survive on nothing.  The salary it asks for is paid in personal attention. If you genuinely want to cooperate with your body, paying it a little attention makes proper diet, exercise and rest easy – you will be providing those things because you want your willing worker to be happily employed.

     

    Loving appreciation.  Your body is going to serve and uphold your interests for a lifetime.  It’s only fair to appreciate it for this service, and if possible to appreciate it with genuine affection.  Most people are far from doing that.  Instead they look on their bodies like old models of cars that will need more repairs and cause more trouble as they wear out.  This causes a serious disconnect.  What they want from life-a future that’s more comfortable and fulfilling-is mismatched to a body that grows more uncomfortable and disappointing. The mismatch isn’t the body’s fault, however; it’s the product of beliefs and assumptions born in the mind.  We all relate to loved ones who grow older, and if we’re lucky, we relate to them better as they age.  Familiarity breeds fondness in this case, and appreciation flows more naturally.

     

    The same should hold true with your body. Being a familiar companion, you can grow fonder of it over time.  The two of you settle in to a shared life, knowing things about each other that no one else can possibly know.  If this sounds like a marriage, that is rightly so.  The highest aim in life is the marriage of mind and soul, and since the body links the two, it deserves to be part of a more perfect union as the years unfold.  This isn’t a fantasy that tries to compensate for the advance of physical aging. It’s a realistic way to approach you own awareness.  If you aim to be more aware, wiser, and more fulfilled in the future, invite you body to join that future as an equal partner.  When the body, mind and soul are matched, the results will be far different from when they are alienated from one another.”

               Deepak Chopra

     

    So, as you head into our studio for your next practice, just remember, you are not alone, but with your closest buddy ever, your body!

     

     

    Imagine the attention, love and appreciation we are putting into our bodies each time we do our yoga. 

     

    It will respond in kind!

     

  • Happy Birthday Soul Sister!

    You know how you meet someone and instantly connect, that there is a familiar comfortableness which seems to grow deeper and deeper with each passing year, how, as you share more and more, you discover more and more similarities, and it seems you lived many lifetimes together, well, that is the way it is between us.

     

    Some would say we met ‘by accident’ and I would say we met right on time, in perfect orchestration, it was fated. 

     

    We were buddies from the start, connected like we had never been apart. 

     

    On the outside, not a match it seemed, yet inside we were a perfect fit.

     

    Our sense of self was buried under a pile of stuff protecting us from pain and sorrow, underneath the heap our little girls met, both neglected and forgotten.

     

    Truth is our deepest connection. 

     

    Truth flowed between us, always, releasing long held secrets and sorrows; we freely expressed our fears, out loud.

     

    I look with honor upon her pathway and how she tried so hard, and failed.  She failed to correct another’s wrong.

     

    On this Birthday, my wish for you is to snap the line that holds you hostage, the one that has had you forever linked and connected to another’s failure, it is not yours!

     

    Let them go.  Honey it wasn’t your fault.  You can’t be good enough to make them well.

     

    Walk free and away….walk towards your hurting little girl, and sit with her awhile.

     

    Love her brokenness; simply love her as you find her.

     

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    You are perfect coming from where you came. 

     

    What I love the most is all your imperfections, for they make you you.

     

    Happy Birthday Soul Sister! 

     

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  • One Step Off……………..day 9

    Yoga and I were just a tad off today.   I was a little late in all postures, and didn’t seem to have full throttle, just second gear. 

     

    The wood fire wasn’t roaring like usual, so I was lukewarm but not sweating warm, and my mind once again intruded.

     

    Some postures found me out of breath, which I noticed because; I then began to breathe again.

     

    It is funny that more than one thing seemed to be just a little off, but the lady kept going through the motions, forever it seemed trying to catch up.

     

    By the time I would have the energy or breath to push harder, the posture was over.  Or when I had the breath to stretch deeper, it was time to relax.

     

    I think I needed a slower yoga, a gentle start, some breathing space, and then the serious bending/pulling, and then a long rest… with plenty of warning that the next one was coming.

     

    Yoga and the Lady one step off.

  • Out of a Cocoon. Day 8

    When I was doing the standing postures today, I felt very deeply that I was the one who controlled this body.

     

    Meaning It is up to me to get up each day, to push it as far as I can in each posture, and to be aware of my body.

     

    The feeling that no one was coming to step in front of me and do this physical fitness had two distinct sides.  

     

    One being great no one can stop me, and the other was oh boy will I be able to keep going?

     

    In Deepak’s latest book, Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul he writes.

     

    “Expect the best.  You don’t let go so that something good might happen. You let go so that the very best in yourself, your soul, can merge with you.  By itself, letting go of a bit of anger, a bit of fear, a bit of resentment, might seem tiny.  I’d reframe the situation.  Imagine that you are used to living in a small cramped house.  You’ve become so used to this claustrophobic space that you almost never go outside.  Yet there are carefree moments when you think it would be nice to experience a wider world.  So you open the door, and as you step outside, you confront a vast landscape, filled with light and extending to infinity in all directions.

     

    Ah, you think, here is joy and love.  Here is real fulfillment.  So you roam outside, wanting to abide in this land of light forever.  Yet after awhile you get tired of this love and joy.  Somehow the space outside is too vast, the horizon to infinite.  You miss your familiar house, and it pulls you back.  So you return, and it feels safe to be back.  You resume you familiar existence.  For a time you’re content again, but you keep remembering the vast, unlimited space outside.  Once again, you step out, and this time you stay longer.  Your sense of love and joy isn’t so tiring.  The space outside is still infinite but that doesn’t frighten you so much.  The light that shines everywhere isn’t so blinding, and you resolve that this time you will abide here forever.

     

    This is a parable about the ego and the soul. The ego is your safe house; the soul is the unbounded space outside.  Every time you feel even a moment of joy and love, freedom and bliss, you have stepped into the land of light.  You feel so wonderful that you want to keep the experience going, the way two infatuated lovers never want to be apart.  But your ego, your safe house calls you back.  This pattern of coming and going is how letting go works.  It takes repeated exposure to the unbounded soul for you to know that it is real. But your old conditioning will keep pulling you back.  In time, your trips outside will last longer and feel more comfortable.  Your soul is starting to seep into you; with this merging you begin to understand that you can live in the unbounded permanently. It becomes more natural than your safe house because in the unbounded you are the real you.”    Deepak

     

    It is so good to know that it is normal to want to sneak back to the comfortable cramped place.  And that it may take a few times of coming out into the new landscape to feel comfortable.

     

    Sometimes fear arises, but now it seems I am more fearful of getting left in the dark, cramped, unhealthy, and old conditions.

     

    Doing this 60-day yoga challenge has me going outside each day getting used to living unbounded.

     

    It literally feels like I am unraveling what has kept me bound and motionless. 

     

    Like coming out of a cocoon! 

     

     “Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly.”   -proverb

     

     

  • My Truth is showing…..

    Yoga photos on day 7 of 60- day Bikram Challenge! 

    The Yoga Lady being created in my sewing place.  This is where I do my yoga.  IMG_1827
      My feet are usually together…..

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    It feels like I have such a bow, sorta disappointed……

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    And it doesn't improve upstairs bow still the same….oh well it is the beginning.

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    And this feels like my thighs are horizontal…oh my, I have a ways to go.

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    Wow, what a roll, I mean a bow!!  It feels so different then the picture looks!

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     I am hopeful that someday I will be happy I took these revealing photos, showing just where I am at week seven.  I hope this inspires you!

  • Seven days into the reconstruction of a stronger healthier me!

    As emotion poured out of me, and down my cheeks and into my ears, with knee quivering, hands softly rubbing my body, I lay there and listened to foreign words, being sung by a kind man, Bikram. 

     

    He is very tough and demands lots from me in each pose, as he twists and wrings my muscles, or points out my weakness as my knees wobble striving for balance, he requires 110% always.

     

    I am happy he set the bar high, that he won’t allow less than my utmost best.

     

    In the past I felt that those who loved you should give you slack, what I now know is that those who love you the most demand the most from you, never letting you slip into a lesser version of your self.

     

    As he ends the floor exercises, he comments, “one of these days, you will know what this yoga is all about, this yoga makes you you.”

     

    He also says, “no one on this earth knows the purpose of your birth.” 

     

    I hear him saying we are free to be who we are meant to be, that others don’t know what our inner desires and needs are, and we may not, for I for one served so many, but never myself. 

     

    I feel such gratitude that this yoga will return this body to me, and give me the strength and courage to be more and more myself. 

     

    Thank you all my yoga buddies for walking with me, for it brings me great peace knowing you are all there.  Each of us will be much stronger and more ourselves by the end of the 60 days.

     

    Seven days into the reconstruction of a stronger healthier me!

     

  • A Soul Full Body.

    I am reading a book called “Reinventing the Body, resurrecting the Soul, by Deepak Chopra.

     

    I gulp it down and then go back and read it again, for what he is saying is so very interesting.

     

    He was speaking of the different Ego Agendas, there were many, and I had flavors of a few, here is one.

     

    Criticism and perfectionism constitute another variation on attacking before someone else attacks you.  In this case, the critic fears being seen as imperfect.  There’s an underlying sense of being wrong or defective. The sense of being never good enough is projected outward: “nothing can be right with you if I’m not right.”  When our ego adopts this agenda, it thinks it’s protecting us from anxiety and humiliation. Perfectionists hold up impossible standards so that nothing can ever be good enough, thereby proving that they are right to feel that they can never be good enough.  There’s obviously an element of anger here as well, since the critic and perfectionist are attacking their victims, much as they always protest that “it isn’t personal.” It’s always personal…..to them.

     

    He goes on after listing all the agendas, “To expand in awareness, you must see past these ego agendas and learn to be honest about your motivations.  There’s a sort of negotiation constantly going on between your ego and your body. When you become aware of what your body is trying to tell you, then your ego can’t keep reinforcing its agenda.  You have physical proof that you are blocking the flow of experience, which should be easy, carefree, and spontaneous.  So when you see yourself falling back on fixed ego strategy, see it for what it is, and stop.  You must catch yourself at the very moment you begin to act self-important, dependent, or overbearing.  Your ego will kick into a prearranged behavior automatically; like muscles, behaviors have memory.  Once you trigger them – even slightly- they jump into action.

     

    Simply by being aware, you can check on your body.  There will always be signs of an underlying emotion.  Feel that emotion; be with it.  Contact allows the physical sensation to dissipate naturally; your discomfort lessens as your body lets go of distorted or stuck energies that you have been holding on to.  Only in this way can you melt away your defenses.  Unless you are aware, change is impossible.  But when you bring awareness to your body, you can start becoming undefended.  Reality starts to be more acceptable as it is, not as you try to force it to be.

     

    Congratulate yourself for being willing to change.  Awareness is capable of overcoming the most restricted boundaries; because every boundary is made of nothing but awareness that has decided to contract instead of expand.  Also, appreciate your body for its honesty.  It has been letting your soul shine through when your mind refused to.  You are making a connection to your body, and each connection, however small, brings you closer to your soul as the level of life where you can reside permanently and with total ease.” Deepak

     

    “…appreciate your body for its honesty.  It has been letting your soul shine through when your mind refused to.”

     

    What I love the most about this body is its honesty. 

     

    The body is only a reflection on what we put our awareness on.  The ego’s agenda or the souls, pick one.

     

    I love the ‘pick one’; it makes it so much easier.

    I pick soul. 

     

    I love how only the soul gets to speak using the body.

     

    My soul always shined through; first it shown with pain and fear, then with joy, love and peace. 

     

    I know that it is capable of shining the worst darkness and the greatest Light.  How incredibly awesome a soul full body!

     

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