Tag: wound

• Yoga Heals a Loveless Self

  “The purpose of yoga is to heal.

  Most people start practicing Bikram Yoga to flatten our stomachs, stretch our tight hamstrings, and/or to prevent future injuries. And yes it will do all of that, but those are the secondary benefits to practicing Bikram Yoga. The purpose of this yoga is TO HEAL and that healing takes place from the inside out. It works on a mental level (and spiritual level) to heal our minds. Only then can we begin to change our self on the outside.

  Bikram says, the yoga practice teaches us how to like our self and we start taking better take care of our self then we fall in LOVE with our self!”
  Karen Buckner

  What I didn’t know when I began this practice was how out of love I was with myself, and how my love of my self depended upon another.

  If they loved me, I was okay.

  I never loved me alone, by myself without doing for another.

  It is shocking how dependent we are taught to be on another’s good opinion, how we act/be/live/think/believe to be loved.
  To have another love us, yet we don’t stop and think what it would take for us to love us, alone.

  Doing was my self worth, which I mistook for love.

  I was worthless unless I was doing.

  Imagine this type of self-love where you give and give and give until there isn’t any energy left, until you are filled with resentment of the takers who are your love givers.

  Giving to get love?

  My damaged body is what drove me to doing yoga, with an arm hanging limply at my side, my upper shoulders and neck one huge knotted ball, I began to work on self.

  What I didn’t know was that I was actually filling up my empty tank inside and dumping out all the past beliefs about how to love, changing my inner beliefs of my self, one-second at a time, as I paid attention to my breath and body.

  Each day I brought my body to the mat, and focused on my breathing, as I twisted and bent this constricted body into unimaginable poses, I was changing deeply inside.
  It is a like strenuous physical magic, while I was concentrating so hard to change my body, my insides were healing, my sense of self blossomed, my inner strength to be me became strong, my mind sought clarity and the willingness to face what is…the list goes on and on.

  Yoga heals a loveless self.

  

  November 10, 2010

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• Let the Pain Out

  “Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.” ~Theodore N. Vail

  When you face what you actually are compared to what you desire to be, you will find much peace, it is trying to be someone else that’s impossible.

  Letting go of the potential, the prize of someday, the if only of yesterday, and the idealized version of self that is the hardest to do.

  To sit down fully in imperfection and disappointing the mind, by facing all the evidence contrary to many beliefs.

  What I felt most for the men on stage with Oprah was that they were unable to claim their lost innocence and how abuse changed them.

  They wanted what is impossible to attain, and in doing so sit in denial of whom they are.

  They are the combination of innocence lost and the affects of abuse, and when they can see the imperfections of their lives, they will see how perfectly it is.

  How abuse does steal innocence, how if you don’t address abuse, abuse lives its life for you.

  It seems that you are a victim when you repeatedly succumb to the wishes of if only, or I can’t be different, and you become a victor when you stand and state the obvious.

  I was abused.
  I am confused because of the abuse.
  I lived an upside down life due to being abused.

  Until we can recognize how upside down we are, we can’t seek to right ourselves.

  By holding on to the picture of innocence, we miss who we now are.

  I will never not know the feelings of terror of a father.
  I will never not know who I would be without the abuse, but I can know who I can be in spite of it.

  There is a life after abuse, a way to reclaim your life today, but not undo yesterday.

  Life after abuse starts when you out yourself.
  Until then, you are locked in the dark with the secret.

  Once you step out, your life after abuse can begin…Abuse and its shame lives in the dark quiet silence.

  You don’t have to tell the whole world, but speak to someone, open the wound and let the pain out.

  November 8, 2010

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