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A Nice Man

The teachings of the church seem to create duplicity among its parishioners, for it teaches we are sinful, but that once you wipe away the sins, you are no longer full of sin.

The overview of what the church actually preaches and the applications of its teachings are very much at odds, in fact I would say, that it is a church which honors being duplicitous.

Where the dark side is there, but we are taught to 'bless' it away…and to now act like it has disappeared.

If your 'bad' actions can be wiped clean, then you are not really bad…you live in a land that has no darkness…you are forever in this alternate universe of only goodness.

The church doesn't expect you to stop sinning, it Does expect you to keep confessing…It doesn't expect you to stop forgiving, It expects you to forgive forever.

It is a cycle you can't break free of….and it leaves you a sinner that isn't sinful.

You have sinned, but they are nowhere to be found…so your are pure.

You are a wiped clean slate that has been forgiven of sins a thousand times, yet clean. No trail is ever found, no smear is left behind…you are clean…but have sinned, yet the sins are not ever spoken of.

It is like there isn't anything that is permanent, all is fluid and ever changing, there is no sin, while sins are forgiven.

What if the sin is a slap to a child's face? Does the mark disappear? Is it wiped clean, does it not leave a mark on the esteem of the child?

What if the sin is a rape of a child…is she returned to pure once the blessing is uttered?

The wiping of the slate is ONLY for the offender.

The cleanup is to remove the toxic behavior off of the hands of the abuser, it isn't for the wounded child.

The wounded child is never attended, seen or acknowledged, the offenders life is all that matters. And God Forbid it have a smear.

How is it that this religion only cures Offenders?

How is it that this religion neglects the sins upon the sinnee.

How doesn't it see where the sins take place, how in real life a slap cannot be unslapped…a rape can't be undone. Sins are damage yet the damage isn't dealt with only the one who did the damage.

We were taught not to see the one wrecking havoc on our worlds, and to hide the damage. Hide our bleeding wounds, our broken hearts our shattered trust…for if we spoke of it, the Blessings didn't work.

And by God, the blessings must work, for we are all heading to heaven under the ticket of the blessings working.

The duplicity of the church is to see the sinner but not the sins upon the innocent child…it fails to see how wiping clean the offender makes a liar out of us.

We have the imprint of their sin upon our bodies, but we have to now pretend the 'sin' didn't happen. We lead a duplicitious life…we know the truth, but are not to act upon it.

And we now carry their sin, while they get to sing in the sunshine and go forth pure…we are now weighted down by their sins.

Am I the only one who can see how this makes a child go insane?

Not only are we not allowed to show the marks of their sin, we now have to believe they are nice…that they never did misbehave.

These 'clean' adults and their sins, have written upon the slate of who the child is, their imprints have gone nowhere, the sting of the hand left a mark on the soul, the rape tore the trust and love to shreds.

This insane cycle can only be broken when the sins go back to the sinners…where they in reality have never left.

My father raped me, I didn't rape him…it is his sin, not mine.

I am no longer agreeing to his duplicity…where he rapes me and is seen as a nice man.

December 5, 2011

attachment, duplicity, FALC, sinners, sins
Back to the Lake of Innocence.

The previous post’s pictures articulate the changes, and how in fact the little girl continues to look the same, but now feels like that dirty lake resides inside of her, by the actions done to her and the lack of response.

Prior to abuse entering into her world, her world is like Lake Superior on a beautiful summer day, calm, peaceful, relaxing, clean, fresh, beautiful, loving, kind, innocent…

And then….

(Recounting from the file)

“He was always very nice, showing interest in me… he casually pulled me on his lap, real friendly like, a real laid back guy…but very strong…he would pull me onto his lap, he forcefully pulled me on his lap and then take my hand, held my hand, and place it over his erect penis that would be out of his long johns…if she tried to pull it away, he would very firmly put it back, rubbing his penis, while Ray would be doing this, other people would be in the room, including his wife. The same scenario happened, over and over again…” Little girl voices…

After abuse the world changes color, it is now darker, scarier and monsters lurk in kitchens and living rooms…friendly laid back guys can transform into monsters and then back again. No one seems to see the monster you are experiencing… It becomes this fluid ever changing landscape.

And from the file, each girl spoke of my father’s transformation, of going from nice laid back neighbor man to a forcible pedophile. The juxtaposition.

What is missing is the transformation of the other adults.

The wife, neighbors and minister continued on as normal.

What is horrific is that they don’t become unglued…and transform into raging indignant people reeling about the injustice of such treatment of the innocent.

We are left with double transformations.

We wait to see our loving caring parent transform into rage at our abuse…and it doesn’t happen.

So we then, watch or feel inside the disappearing love, trust and faith.

It transforms from loving and caring, to caring less.

Our world now holds people who are not who they say they are, there are flipping images and we can’t trust what we see anymore.

The truth is, there is no truth.

This is the awful state to be in, where you can’t trust the kind face of my father for lurking in the background is forcible contact with his penis.

Double images.

You can’t trust your mother’s high morals and values for when it comes to the real tough things in life, she is unable to stand tall, to come out swinging for you.

She proclaims strong and comes out weak.

She turns a blind eye towards your abuser, which translates to us, a blind eye on our abuse our wounds…

If you don’t value your children, you don’t value anything.

And when you don’t value the children, the children can’t value themselves. They literally see themselves in your eyes.

What I saw in my parent’s eyes is the Lake of Sins…their sins. I seen me through their eyes of sins…believing those eyes were talking about me, instead they were showing me who they were, and it had nothing to do with me.

Their value became my value…they can’t make me precious and valuable…without it being within them first.

“you can’t give what you don’t have…” seems like a lofty bit of wisdom the therapy world imparts, but I know form experience this is true.

When I discovered my own innocence, I could then see my children with eyes of innocence…but first I had to see the abuse my parents gave to me. I couldn’t hold them innocent, for when I did I was the problem.

And what I know for sure is the girls; the little children who are forced to perform sexual acts are never the problem. Not now, not ever.

Until I held my father accountable, my innocence was not mine.

This is very very tough for a child to do, for we want at all cost to keep a loving parent, a strong caring forceful in love parent, but instead we get parents who become strong in abuse and weak in love.

Even at my old age, I still wanted to have a strong generation before me, I didn’t want to be stronger than the top, I wanted a soft place to fall, someone to rely upon, a warm embrace, a shelter from life storms…

My healing and dealing and bearing the brunt of all ridicule and disdain is giving my children the parent I sought.

I have to withstand all the storms that have been leveled at me to show my children and I how strong I am, that no matter who abuses…I can stand tough.

I have stood against my father, my mother and all siblings who have openly and willingly supported and cared for them. I have let family go for the sake of my own little girl inside and in doing so have secured an environment for my own children.

I have transformed multiple times…innocent to abuse, to innocent again, from strong to weak and weak to strong, from loving to fear and fear to loving, from me to not me to back to me again.

Back to the Lake of Innocence…

September 25, 2011

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We either hide your sins or own our lives.

The main belief or what keeps the faith going is this one paragraph that Jim Torola wrote about in his Post, “Why no Movement.”

“Or the FALC trump card, "it was forgiven in Jesus' Name and Precious Blood, thrown into the bottom of the sea of grace, forgiven and forgotten, and if anyone brings up this again, they will take on that sin." Jim Torola http://jimtorola.typepad.com/blog/

Anyone who has not been raised on this concept may find this strange, but if you have been taught since you were a young girl, that this is true; you will not go diving into the sin lake to retrieve anything.

Diving into the sin lake, sins will attach to you like suckers in a stagnant pond…and you are ‘bad’ for just wading into the waters, for ‘thinking’ about past sins…let alone going back in and dragging them to surface.

I am not sure I can impress upon those who are walking the narrow road what it is you all are actually doing.

You are teaching children that when you tell, nothing will be done for them, but great magical acts will be done for the bad man. And all matter of shame will be brought upon you for ever speaking of this matter again.

As Pete Torola so succinctly put it, “What is your motive for telling?”

Why little girl are you going back to the sea of Grace and dragging out Ray’s sins?

“Oh yea of little faith, don’t you believe it has been blessed away?” To what end do you want to drag this dirty filthy deed to surface??? Don’t you know its bad to do this?

What is so utterly mind blowing is that the adults never doubted the girls recounting, but instead did insane things with this information.

If you only knew what that does for a child who has been abused, to be heard, but then no action to arrest, stop or curtail these activities.

We tell the adults and the adults do nothing.

Oh wait, they do do something, they take our pain, suffering, fear and anguish and toss it away, paying no attention to how we feel. It is more important to bless the bad man and put his ‘acts’ away, and then threaten us if we bring it up…again.

For they want to get to Heaven…and the way to heaven is to bless, bless, bless, repeatedly, forever, and NEVER speak of it again.

The way to Heaven is to make the bad men whiter than snow…and the way is littered with the souls of little children.

I can’t know what you all feel as you sit your bottoms down on the benches, but I am here to tell you what your techniques of dealing with sins do for an abused child.

It gives the abuse child nowhere to go, no one to hear, and no one to see them. They become invisible and discarded, useless, worthless…trash, the litter along your path to heaven.

I recall writing and actually giving a narrative of what it felt like…even without memories, I had a distinct recollection of not being able to get out of the hellhole.

What is a hellhole many may ask?

You know what the hellhole looks like; it is the bottom of the Sea of Grace.

Pedophiles swim down there and drag little girls there repeatedly…while you all ‘believe’ that they disappeared.

A hellhole is a place where you have no power, no choice, no way out. You are left alone in your mind without adult supervision while your father does the unspeakable, you can speak, but you can’t be heard. They can see, but turn away…you are too little and they are sooo big. You are living in an alternate universe from the adults around you. They speak of loving kindness, you feel utter helplessness and fear.

I was lost in the sea of Grace and no one cared…

In order to survive the sea of Grace you have to kill your spirit, drug your feelings, check out and live in the pretend place the adults live. Where a pedophile is a dad…

I know why kids do drugs, kill themselves; they can’t take the sea of Grace no more.

While you all are blessing him, you are making us Live in the Sea of Grace…or what it really is The Lake of Sins.

I lived and swam and finally got used to living in the Lake of Sins. Its twisted mess became my normal. Silently you swim around, not speaking of what you see, how you feel…you are disconnected like debris…unattached drifting amidst the other despicable things. You fit in there, you feel as one with all the disgusting things, you are unworthy and useless, for the caring adults didn’t care.

It is incredible to me, that when you don’t see our wounds we become them…you don’t have to bless us, we naturally are attracted to the sins you tossed away…

When you don’t see us as innocent, we no longer feel it.

Funny, in a tragic way…you always seen and made sure that Ray stayed innocent…

He stays clean and I get dirtier…I have to keep this a secret so the adults stay clean.

I have broken the silence, the gig is up, it is over. I came to shore, I left the Lake of Sin, and I am talking about it, writing about it, and hoping against hope, there is one little girl out there in her own hell hole who will hear me calling her name.

I see you.

I hear you.

I know you are there.

I am here to tell you, you are not alone.

The only way out is to stop holding the secret.

The threat of sins is simply that a threat.

There is no sea of Grace, but a lake of sin.

You live there and you can walk free.

Get out. Speak out. Stop holding on to sins of others. We all carry our own…the sea or lake lives within us. We either hide your sins or own our lives.

What we feel like before we were abused…

and how we feel after… This is the Sea of Grace in the FALC where

the abused children are made to live, for the 'dad' is clean and we are not.

September 24, 2011

abuse, childhood, FALC, forgiveness, secrets, sins
Dispute the Group

I have been trying to find a clear picture in order to illustrate the mindset of group mentality and how it feels when you leave and turn independent…

I was raised in a family of 14, there was no room for individual requests, needs or special treatment, you got what the rest got and that was that, one size fits all.

I was also raised in a church that also didn’t cater to individual needs, but rather had a way in which we had to adhere to or conform with, it was best to blend in, to look alike and act alike.

And within these groups were other smaller groups, but rarely was there individuality or separateness or God forbid special uniqueness, we all marched forward as one.

The sins grouped together like the congregations…all were equal because they belonged to a group.

Grouping is the way of Groups. There is comfort in bunches of things.

Raised to lump things together leads to never looking closely at what is inside the group, but instead you have intent stares at what sticks out.

The poking stuff, the non conforming things, the things that don’t match or fit together, the odd pieces that don’t belong…these things are pushed away and are made to feel unwelcome, not part of and may even be seen as threatening to the group…and in defense for the sovereignty of the group will be shunned.

I had to look up the word Sovereignty to make sure it fit what I was trying to say.

independence: the right to self-government without interference from outside

Oh, it fits perfectly.

The shunning feels personal when you are the one who is doing things against the beat of the group drum, but what I can see now, is that the shunning is to preserve the groups rights of self government…THEY truly do NOT want INTERFERENCE from the outside.

Any thought or idea that interferes with its history or traditions…is an enemy of the group.

It will be seen as interference against the group, seen as a traitor or family wrecker.

They are so busy defending their group; they fail to notice what their group is made up of.

My family defended FAMILY, against all enemies foreign or domestic, truthful or not, what matters most is that damn family must stick together, always. Anyone, sister or daughter, son or brother who stands against it must be shunned…for family matters. The group. The group no matter what it is made up of matters, the lump sticks together as a bunch…Even my father’s molesting ways would not tear the bunch apart…And I was actually seen as worse than him for daring to suggest that the family they were hanging so tightly to, was filled with abuse, not love. Incredible as it seems, the worst sin of all is to dispute the group.

September 11, 2011

FALC, group, leaving, mentality, shunning, sins
Reasons to Spin

While dialoguing in the comment section on the Post, “Where Your Best Interest Lies” a few posts back, I am feeling like I am a reporter trying to get my story out and they are working like crazy Spin Doctors or the Public Relations Department of the FALC to prevent that from happening.

They are trying so hard to convince me it wasn’t their ‘faith’ or the church or its members or any of that religious stuff, and that my abuse stands alone, like a rogue virus.

I feel people are working so hard to spin my story off into this lonely little section called abuse where religion never touched it, blessed it or had ANY thing to do with my abuse.

There is abuse, AND there is religion and never shall the two touch each other.

It is sounding like a political debate where they want there to be two sides.

And I am here to tell you in my experience, Religion had a huge part in keeping abuse in my family home. It did not stay there on its own and without the knowledge of the church.

There is no way I can speak of my abuse without including the church.

In fact, if I had good faith in the forgiveness of sins, I could have had a normal dad.

If I had good faith in the power of the forgiveness of sins, the sins would be washed away never to be heard from again…

Maybe you all want to blame my weak faith on the fact that my father kept abusing little girls. For damn it IF only I could have believed more deeply he could be washed whiter than snow and not hurt one more little girl.

Do any of you know what it is like to call your childhood friends, now 40 years later and say, “I wish you would not have been my friend, for honey it cost you way too much.”

Have you?

Do you know that I recall one bright memory of me being on a huge white pole swing in our yard on a bright sunny summer day, and my dad came to me crying asking ME for a blessing. Why? What did he do to this young young little girl whose feet couldn’t even touch the ground. What??? I don't know if I did it properly…I was way too little.

Did I not bless him properly? Did I not believe it, IS that why he continued on molesting, raping and fondling little girls? Was my faith to weak in strength to erase it correctly?

Am I going to hell for being a bad blesser???

When you question my story, you are saying to me, that I am wrong. Tell me where I am wrong? Tell me, please and USE your name.

I believed in a father.

I believed in a mother.

I believed in the power of the forgiveness of sins.

I believed in order to be good, I had to bless bad people.

I believed wrong…

And did my ‘faith’ in the forgiveness of HIS sins spare one little girl? Did it? Can you put the blame on me? Did I bless him wrong???

Oh yeah my faith is weak now, it is actually nonexistent in the power of forgiving and blessing away the sins of the fathers.

Yes it is. I believe 100% that it does not work.

I am living breathing proof.

Where do you all believe these piles of sins are? Look behind you they walk with you everywhere. It is only in your mind, that you think they are gone.

Each and every action you have made is written down in the book of reality seen by God…nothing gets erased ever.

The only thing you can do is do better when you know better.

In the past, I was a good Christian and spoke of it not, not my feelings of terror towards my father, nor my deep down resentment towards my mother, I sucked in and asked to be blessed for being such a bad child to feel unloving toward her parents.

I kept trying to be a better child, never even stopping to see if I had parents I should be loving toward.

When my father’s name was spoken as being the one to molest my niece, I became a very bad child. I stood with the little girl and somehow I knew I was standing with me.

I stood in reality and refused to bless it away, like I even could.

This little girl isn’t going to be ‘unabused’ if I utter the magic phrase.

I am bad, a bad ass, and a bitter, cold, vengeful woman some say. I will be alone and lonely for saying what I say. I will be ridiculed and not believed…all the same things I felt as a child.

As a child I believed them, now as woman who is speaking her truth I do not.

I have faith in God and me.

I have faith in truth.

I have faith is using my real name.

I have faith in others who can reveal themselves to me.

The rest, I have no faith in.

For if you can’t say your name, you are not standing with me, you hiding like my father behind the front of being normal. Good people don't hide.

Only those in truth will say their name. This is my belief and this is my blog. If you feel differently you can blog yourself and have a great conversation and sharing anonymously.

Oh and one more thing.

Someone mentioned I lost the faith in God.

No honey, God has been with me all along.

He was the one who erased my memory of the event.

He kept me being a little girl with out such a horrific thing to remember. And did however keep my truth in my body, to keep me from going near the man who did such awful things to such a sweet innocent BELIEVING girl.

Your church doesn’t own God; he is not applauding your spinning my story to make it kind. He was there and he knew I would not have survived life living in that house with a visual memory, sadly I would have went insane. Only a child who didn’t know could support that family.

I didn’t know… and I put my faith in the folks who were spinning my life to be normal.

Now I am no longer fooled by the spins, I only see what is behind.

Only anonymous have reasons to spin.

September 5, 2011

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Disguised as a religious church.

What came to me is that religion wants to be separated from the people in the church, each and every time a scandal darkens it by one of the congregants. It is then there is a separation between religion and the people who worship it.

What is it? Does it stand separated from the people; can you add it on and take it off at will? Is it within the walls of a church, where is this religion that stands alone?

If the people are not all representatives of the religion, then where is it?

When I discussed the pedophiles within the church, they make it seem like those folks are not representatives of the religion, that they somehow are now separated.

I just can’t see where you can take the religion out of the man…

Where is religion stored in a person, where is its compartment of being?

From my experience the religion was the man/woman. How you moved and where you went all pointed to which religion you were.

There is no separation between who you are and what religion you worshiped it was all one.

My mother made no moves without her religion.

I made moves that went against my religion and was made to feel less than, but they made sense to me, so I moved.
I was a rebel in my religion when I made decisions that went against the rules. The goal of the religion was to keep us all uniform.

What I think they failed to take into consideration is the human factor, for their religion looks good on paper but its application fails in reality.

While trying to preserve the religion they disregard the children, so intent are they on the practice of forgiving sins, they fail to see the wounded.

And the wounded fill the benches and continue to bleed upon the walls of their religion unseen or cared for.

How is that religion any different than my childhood home?

Wasn’t the cover of family supposed to protect the children?

Somehow in the minds of the people in the pews they believe their children are safe from pedophiles, while pedophiles are preaching to them, sitting by them, singing with them, their blind faith has them unseeing.

Their faith is to please God by blessing the sinners, while the sinners are free to sin against them again and again.

The blessers fail to see that the it is not working, that the tools they are using are useless to stop children from being raped.

And even more importantly, they can’t see themselves harboring criminals when they do so.

A den of criminals is how my old religion feels. One huge moving abiding blind horrifying mess.

If you can’t get the blessers to stop blessing, how in the world can you get the pedophiles to stop raping?

What tools does your religion have to stop this insanity?
How powerful is that religion if it condones this?
Who are you as you sit in the pew?
What are you truly part of?
What are you supporting?

I am sorry, but if you belong to a group that has had generations of pedophiles roaming freely, you are not in a religion but in a cult of pedophiles, that is disguised as a religious church.

June 9, 2011

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Elders of the Church

There are no coincidences in life and the fact that I am learning about more and more sexual abuse in my old church while I am reading Alice Miller is profound.

She is literally writing about the hows and the whys that seemingly intelligent functioning adults are unable to stop this behavior…or it seems “Knows” and does nothing.

What I am getting a view of is my family but displayed in a much bigger group, widespread from state to state.

That there is an underlying very pervasive evil preying upon the children, while half the adults sleep and the other are the perpetrators, and all presenting a mask to society of high morals and values, where TV, Music, drinking and drugs, etc are forbidden, where truth and honesty is the way of life….

The grand scale and its history from generation to generation of criminal sexual behavior under the auspices of a religion of high morals and value is mind blowing.

My mother was not an anomaly she was a typical church mother.

And what is so extremely shocking to me is that I didn’t know of it when I was in it. Yet, here is the deal on that…I didn’t leave the church until I had seen the truth of who my father was. So, I guess, their families were like my family we all matched…so we were not outstanding in the fact that the children in the family were abused.

Knowing that my father abused the neighbors and the neighbor’s parents were in the church and did nothing shows to me, that they too didn’t find this shocking or something that should be presented to the law of the land.

Again, I felt I lived in this little nest of incest with neighbors that I later found out had their own nests, but that we were the ‘odd’ ones in the church. But 6 years later, I am finding out that we are far from odd, but perhaps just normal parishioners.

In Alice’s book she speaks of forgiveness in how I seen it work in the church and how it actually is the juice that keeps the evil in the pulpits and on the church boards, literally running the church while raping the children.

“Can forgiveness for the crimes done to the child be not just ineffective but actively harmful? It certainly can because the body does not understand more precepts. It fights to make our conscious minds admit the truth and transcend our denial of genuine feelings. This is something children cannot afford to do. They have to deceive themselves and turn a blind eye to their parent’s crimes in order to survive. Adults no longer need to repress their feelings. But if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or make others foot the bill.”

“A therapist who has forgiven his parents for the cruelty they showed him may feel the urge to suggest this same remedy to his clients. In so doing, he is exploiting their dependence and their trust. If he is not in touch with his own feelings at all, he may indeed be unaware that he is doing to others what was once done to him. In suggesting forgiveness as a solution, the therapist is abusing and confusing others, while rejecting any kind of responsibility for his actions. He is convinced that he is acting for their own good. Are not all religions unanimously in their conviction that forgiveness is the path to Heaven? Was not Job ultimately reward for the fact that he forgave God?”

“Unlike children, adult patients have a choice. They can leave a therapist once they have seen through his deception and self-deception….”

“To break through this vicious cycle we need to understand that so-called love cannot survive abuse, deception, and exploitation without seeking new victims. And if it requires new victims it is no longer love but at best the longing for love. Only unflinching realization of one’s own past reality, of what really happened can break through the chain of abuse. If I know and can feel what my parents did to me when I was totally defenseless, I no longer need victims to befog my awareness. I no longer need to reenact what happened to me and take it out on innocent people because now I know what happened. And if I want to live my life consciously, without exploiting others, then I must actively accept that knowledge.” Alice Miller

What is so vastly incredible is that the one thing a child needs to heal is not offered to him in that church, instead the only thing that is offered is the forgiveness of sins and the fourth commandment…”to love and Honor thy parents”.

It is no wonder to me, as a person who has lived in the system, who was abused and left untreated there, and has witnessed the responses of my siblings, that this vein of power is still in play, whether you leave the church or not, it will take Herculean power to stop the mind set of forgiving sexual crimes and not passively accept love hurts.

As long as forgiveness is preached, children will suffer abuse from the elders of the church.

May 31, 2011

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What my mind can hold.

Glancing through the book “Truth vs Falsehood” by David Hawkins, I read this headline, “Cultism”…so here it is.

“Cults ensnare the unwary by their specialness and false promises. Members have ‘insider’ status and a special ‘lingo’. The group leader is charismatic, seductive, and courts the intimate, who is flattered by the attention. The leader is very ‘special’ and treated with adulation, which is quickly turned into control of members, including especially their money and sex lives, as well as lifestyles, diets, clothing, etc. Members must take allegiance and break off relationships with family or even spouses and often associations or groups.”

“The group often forms a geographic, restrictive enclave and develops a group paranoia as well as a characteristic “cult glaze” (cal. 120) as though in a hypnotic state (the effect of isolation and brainwashing). Once detected, that glaze is easily recognized (the “programmed cult look,” as one observer described it. There is a flatness and automation style to rationalization where content is like a “party line” that is parroted from having been programmed. Cults especially target celebrities and exploit them as showpieces.”

“The influence of the cult leaders is so strong that large groups of people will willingly kill not only others but also themselves (e.g. Heavens Gate, Jim Jones, Islamic terrorists, suicide bombers, Aum Shinrikyo subway gassers, Bolsheviks, Nazi party, al-Qaeda, the Taliban, White Supremacists, Ku Klux Klan, liberationists etc.”

“Another characteristic of cultism is proselytizing and insistence of following the party line of a pseudo-religious group belief system by which individuality is scorned or even threatened. Leaders are very power-oriented, and control plus paranoid egoism are dominant themes.”

“Sometimes a spiritual leader will calibrate as integrous early in their career but then will fall victim to the seduction of prestige, money, sex, or the adulation of followers. Then the original spiritual group degenerates into a cult, or a spiritual technique becomes actually trademarked and then commercialized and marketed by hired publicists. In that case, the technique calibrates above 200 but the organization itself falls below 200 and becomes primarily a marketing organization that trades on the original concept or exclusive technique. The technique is thus only taught for a price and ‘trainees’ are forbidden to reveal the secret teachings (which are usually merely a few simple phrases or sentences with a general application to ‘improve health’, “attract abundance”, “increase love life,” “be more popular”, fulfill your potential success”, “attract a mate”, etc) Some of the promoted techniques can be found in any fortune cookie, e.g. “One smile can change your life forever” (cal. 350), or “Success goes to one who is kind.” (cal. 360)

“The true value of such workshops is not the magic of the central concept or technique, but the disciplined practice of actually applying it with regularity in the daily life instead of merely quickly dismissing it as “I already know that.” The value of training workshops then lies in the learning of the value of steady application and actually putting a valuable tool into practice and steady focus, e.g., the “faithfulness” of A Course in Miracles workbook.”

“Another expression of cultism is the cultification of splinter groups from traditional religions, e.g., the far-right “fundamentalism” most prominent and visible in Islam, Christianity and ethnic variations of worldwide religions.”
David Hawkins

While I know when you are in the midst of a cult, you can’t see the forest for the trees, but when you step out and find your own freedom to be an individual to feel the open space where the programmed mind used to be, it is mind blowing.

Most feel and think that a cult is this small hidden special group, but if you look around within many religions, you will see what they are doing to the individual, they are controlling it.

Any organization that tells you what to wear and what not to wear, what is acceptable and what is not, what you can and cannot do with your own body is a cult. Albeit a milder level for perhaps your religion hasn’t asked you to kill, yet.

In my childhood religion, there was a phrase that could erase all sins and we literally believed in its power. “Your sins are forgiven in Jesus name and blood…” By believing in this phrase, ‘there was no sin to great to forgive’. All transgressions against others was deleted.

With this phrase, many criminal behaviors are washed away without ever needing the police, the law or the court of the land.

It is insanity at its best and what happens to the victims of these crimes? Who is there to protect them, when it is know and approved to have pedophiles preying upon the children, and the only consequences are they have to ‘confess’ and be ‘forgiven’?

Where are all these sins? Do they really believe that Jesus is carrying the weight of all the tortured children? Is he indeed that forgiving to allow the children to suffer while the adults get a new cloak that is whiter than snow? Come on people wake up the sins are living in your midst, they are the abused, the confused and the broken.

There are no magic words that will take away the physical act of abuse on a child’s body nor erase the terror and the shattered trust and innocence….

The most evil words that I can now hear are “Your sins are all forgiven…” For what it means to me, is that the monster has been blessed to abuse again.

When will the people in the cult wake up and see the bleeding children? When will they understand that the words spoken are destroying the spirits/souls of the children among them?

As they sit in the pews singing “Bless be the tie that binds us…” I want them to know, they are the chorus in a ring of child abuse!

I wanted to believe that my family was an oddity that we were not the popular way within the church, yet I fear that I was the tip of the iceberg and what lies beneath is beyond what my mind can hold.

May 19, 2011

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Standing Strong.

“If you recognize the UNreal with any sincerity in your heart, you need not look for the real.” (Mooji)

What a simple idea to recognize the unreal…and yet I was born onto parents who were unreal, so my real was unreal and there was no place to find real.

My parents lived their lives hiding their real and so we lived hiding our real, in fact our religion had the perfect tool we could use to hide real, it was called forgiviness of sins.

These sins then are no longer part of us, they became unreal and our real is minus all sins.

The real you has no sins…you have repented and handed them over to Jesus, so you can remain whiter than snow and your sins have been washed away.

Anything that was dark or off color could be washed away.

I lived in this washed out world of unreality.

It was washed so many times, you lost sight of what was real and what was unreal. In fact the real you had to keep forgiving to make it unreal.

I am not sure you can follow along, but the main theme of my childhood religion was to keep forgiving all that wasn’t right, and in doing so made it right once again.

In this fluid ever changing landscape nothing real ever stayed real long enough, I lived thoroughly in a moveable reel.

Incredible the way this works for the deviant.

In fact I was raised to believe so much in the magical power of forgivenss of sins that no reality was ever too great to forgive, to make right again.

Most will concentrate on the feelings of forgiveness but not in the actual application of it.

To apply forgiveness is to wash away an action you have done, it leaves you standing as if it never happened.

Where does this sin go?
How does it magically not be part of you anymore?
Can you literally delete that part of yourself?

My childhood religion concentrated highly on forgiveness and did have sins as well, but it was the application of applying forgiveness upon the unsightly deeds that created havoc in my world.

For it allowed all kinds of behaviors that were harmful for a child.

My incredulousness of this leaves me with no words.

For I lived 46 years in unreality that they taught me to create.

My mother’s strengths come from this religion and my father needed this magical wand to return him to being whiter than snow after raping little girls.

It isn’t the reality of what I endured, but the unreality.

How insane the ideology of this religion is…how it works incredibly well for the rapist and is extremely unaffective for those of us who have been raped.

What did it do for me?

Did it undo my rape or did it make me have to make whiter than snow a rapist, make a pedophile a father?

There are two sides of all things, and when you see the application of a sin being erased from the sinner, it doesn’t show you how it feels as one who was sinned upon.

As my father was heaven bound and cleaner than the white driven snow, I was left in hell, dirty and untreated.

I was left with a father who hurts and who is forgiven by a multitude of Knowing adults.

Knowing adults who can change a rapist back into a father with a few words, “Your sins are all forgiven in Jesus name and precious blood.”

And he is once again set upon Heavens path.

And where am I?

What magical words can you say to me, to heal me, to make me whiter than snow? Where are your words for me?

I am speaking for all the ones who have been sinned upon.
Who are left with the affects of the sin, who go untreated.

Untreated is to go without the truth being lived out.

Untreated is to not make real that which is real.

We are forced to live in unreality when you bless away that which is real.

Imagine taking away that which is real from a child…

Making them live in the make belief world.

My whole childhood was based upon make belief things, creating a wonderful fantasy land.

It has taken me six years so far to recognize the unreal and it falls away and all that I get left with is the real.

What I know for sure is that real cannot be blessed away, it remains standings strong.

March 28, 2011

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Moral Wrong Doing

I looked up the meaning of Innocence yet again, and it says, “Freedom from sin or moral wrong.”

Freedom from sin and moral wrongdoing…to be free of engaging in such behavior is to be innocent once again?

To be free of moral wrong doing…

This meaning has more of an impact to me as a mother watching her daughter who is newly freed from an abusive relationship.

I love that you can return to the state of innocence when you leave the moral wrong doing.

Another meaning is,
”It can also refer to a state of unknowing, where one’s experience is less than that of one’s peers, in either a relative view to social peers, or by an absolute comparison to a more common normative scale.”

I love this meaning as well, for it implies the state of unknowing due to the lack of experience.

What I knew to a DNA level was that my daughter was at a disadvantage that her experience level was sorely lacking, where she was like a babe in the woods.
Isn’t it interesting that you can become innocent when you are free from moral wrong doing or when you lack experience?

My childhood religion’s set point was that we were all damaged goods that the body itself is filled with sin and our minds and thoughts riddled with landmines of moral wrongdoing, we were born not innocent.

I believe this is totally the opposite.

The church and its leaders were damaged goods, their psyche filled with feelings of unworthiness, and they preached from that standpoint.

Many a parent preaches from their own private pulpit when they raise their children, we are seen from their lenses of self.

I have viewed my children through many false lenses.

I have seen them in the eyes of the church, the views of others, the fears within me, through my lacks and my moral wrongs, but I was able for the first time, sit with my daughter and see, feel and know her innocence.

Being able to sit, as an innocent mother with an innocent daughter is a beautiful thing.

I have seen myself and her both being locked in a dance of moral wrong doing, and then both of us being set free.

My dance lasted 46 years, and then six years of intense inner inspection, seeking of self, looking at the world critically and with discerning eyes pleading for reality to show me who I am.Her dance was much shorter, but the lesson equally as meaningful.
I would like to think that my bully pulpit of innocence shortened the time she had to suffer.

That by me seeing me with clear eyes, I then had a better lens in which to see her.

It is unbelievable yet believable, that my mother saw herself in me.

This is why; “the sins of the father onto the children” make the children sinners. They don’t have a chance to make their own sins, for they follow what they are taught.

Just the very clear and simple view of reality gets distorted, when no one knows what innocence is.

The greatest tragedy of a dysfunctional family, isn’t that they don’t understand evil, it is instead that they have no idea what innocence feels like, what freedom tastes like, what love is.

Love is innocent.

Love is being free of moral wrong doing.

January 22, 2011

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